tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post2094114689817401401..comments2011-12-14T22:17:25.072-06:00Comments on COFFEE: my middle finger (Patresa)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-26445107653546497752010-12-10T18:10:31.944-06:002010-12-10T18:10:31.944-06:00Oh P. I must apologize because while you have bee...Oh P. I must apologize because while you have been diligently commenting on all posts, I have slacked ass and am now super behind. I feel as if I should duck my head in contrition. <br /><br />BUT! I'm back, and here to comment that you are just plain awesome. The reason I'm saying that is mainly because your escape from a dissatisfying present reality is to fantasy build, and that is exactly the reason I have never grouted the tile in our entry way even though it's broken, and why I don't pick up the yard as often as I should, and why I don't have a new photo booth session lined up. Every time I start to do those things, I get sidetracked by how in a new life I would pay someone to grout, and we would have an on-call pooper-picker-upper and I would have someone I employ to find me dates. Not people dates, but booth dates. You get it. I do this so much that it's a little embarrasing. It's also maybe laziness, but I've started with the fantasy bit, so I'm sticking with it.<br /><br />Anyway, I am well aquainted with the F-it stage and probably live there most of the time. I admire people who shake it loose and climb out. You will too - you get too impatient with yourself when you're there too long, so therefor I look forward to reading much more about your adventures!<br /><br />This was a little bit delusional post, but I'm ok with it!Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09905537299375598512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-76858310275082440842010-12-07T22:56:03.474-06:002010-12-07T22:56:03.474-06:001-I'm baking chocolate chip cookies for a work...1-I'm baking chocolate chip cookies for a work holiday party tomorrow. If I lived closer to you, I would totally wrap some up and deliver them to your front door so you could wake up and find them in the morning, Patresa. It's icy cold where you are right now, I bet (it is where I am). But that's exactly why GE invented microwaves.<br /><br />2-I'm currently reading this book called "Women, Food, and God" by Janeen Roth, and right now the one thing that's sticking with me from everything I've read (I'm 3/4 done) is this: "Never underestimate the human instinct to bolt." A lot of people suffer from chicken-shit-itis.<br /><br />3-But so few of them ever realize it. You are leagues ahead of probably 75% of humanity right now. That's a lot of people, p!<br /><br />4-I deeply relate to being unable to multi-task. I always feel so antsy when I have to multi-task. And sweaty. And then I get snippy. I hate when I'm antsy, sweaty, and snippy. <br /><br />5-Melissa smiled when I played your video/guitar practice the other day. She said, "Teekee guitar?" (which now I think is her way of saying "electric guitar") and when I said, "That's mommy's friend Patresa. Do you like her song?" Melissa said, "Yesh! I like this song." And then she did a little hoppy dance and went back to watching Dora the Explorer.<br /><br />See? You're totally not an amateur. Melissa and Amy would be high fiving you at any open mic. And I bet some total strangers would be like, "Wow, you WROTE that song?" and "Man, how the heck did you even find those chords to No One is to Blame?? I've been looking for years for those things!" <br /><br />You may even get, like, tips if you put a tip jar out. If I lived closer, I'd bake you cookies for your open mic night, and you wouldn't even need a microwave. Woo, P!amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14474804320816948025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-80803147792075951552010-12-06T11:39:51.849-06:002010-12-06T11:39:51.849-06:00thanks, all! and so funny, steph, that your mom to...thanks, all! and so funny, steph, that your mom touts the same dr. phil advice!<br /><br />tanya, i will embrace my uni-taskness! i will do it!<br /><br />wendy, i am most definitely NOT taking my guitar to D.C. that was just a badly worded paragraph. :)patresa hartmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04225877848092404155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-78166665647117829562010-12-06T10:38:35.494-06:002010-12-06T10:38:35.494-06:00P. I just think it's really cool that you are ...P. I just think it's really cool that you are able to see all of this, including your chick-shit-itis from a broad, objective view. Most people just listen to that imposter voice and, well, follow it. <br /><br />You're on your way. I am curbing my instinct to say "I've been there, it's natural..." to all of these things you're going thru...even down to the feeling like your vocal lines all sound alike... Because I don't want to homogenize your experience or fall into giving advice, because I think I give too much advice, and I read some fool say most people just want to be heard, not get advice (not I, but whatever! ;-)<br />All I'll say is that you're doing really really well. And the fact that you're even bringing your guitar on the plane with you...That's serious dedication!Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03761660768046290323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-75198616523710531772010-12-05T10:58:18.266-06:002010-12-05T10:58:18.266-06:00P, I like you very much.
You are doing fantabulou...P, I like you very much.<br /><br />You are doing fantabulously! I heard once that multitasking is basically doing a lot of things not very well. So, I mean, YEAH, you're feeling like this! "Uni-tasking" is way superior. Too bad we live in a go Go GO G O society. I blame our culture on on constant drive to meet expectations that, really, are ridiculous. With the parameters you've been given (groovy and fulfilling yet time consuming work complicated by your blooming creative self), Miss P, you are meeting these just fine however. Totally. <br /><br />Cheers to some stillness, Sister, however your next moments define this.Tanner May (Tanya)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05005969461911192971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-31419265779928763722010-12-05T09:55:12.549-06:002010-12-05T09:55:12.549-06:00Amen, P. I hope your cookies were absolutely, deli...Amen, P. I hope your cookies were absolutely, delightfully DELISH... I made Red Velvet cookies this week, and they were totally delicious. (Thank God they're almost gone, too!)<br />The brutal honesty contained in this post is a relief. I have lived most of the last decade in the F-it stages of life... it's easier, less painful, SAFE. I totally get where you are. The back yard, yes. Yes, it is. I find myself running for the safety and security of the back yard all too often, and that's one of the biggest personal goals I have for myself - daring to see & experience what else is out there, because there is a big, wonderful world of possibility that exists beyond the fence!!! Yeah, gag. :) If you can get past the taste of bile in your mouth right now, you know it's true. We both do.<br />I know people who seem to deal effortlessly with too much GO. I can multi-task; but it seems that the better I am at it, the more I have to try to deal with. And I can't sustain it for extremely long periods of time. I do great and then need a break. There hasn't been much in the way of breaks lately, so I feel your pain.<br />I love that you quoted Dr. Phil. My mom always used to say that to me, "The 'but' undoes everything you just said before it, Steph. Think about it." Go Mom. You & Dr. Phil... oh yeah. It does make sense, though, and I try to be careful about how I phrase things like that to this day. Sometimes, too, it's a great way to (at least in my head) say what I really mean to say to someone... HA! Give the compliment and then use the BUT! I know, true colors, huh? Well, it's true. I do that sometimes.<br />P, I hope you can shake the last ten days and that your next post is a totally celebratory one!!! Hang tight, and know we're pulling for ya!Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605984406276288058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-27344269200848716172010-12-05T08:49:01.797-06:002010-12-05T08:49:01.797-06:00holly, i will work on my list, and thank you for p...holly, i will work on my list, and thank you for providing on of the items! ha!<br /><br />thank you, ms. tawni! "uni-tasker" that makes me laugh, because it makes me think of unicorns. :) self-sabotage…oh my, yes. lord.patresa hartmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04225877848092404155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-37671203756949061092010-12-04T13:30:53.589-06:002010-12-04T13:30:53.589-06:00Oh, P. I am giving the last 10 days the middle fin...Oh, P. I am giving the last 10 days the middle finger with you. The last 10 WORTHLESS days. Sigh.<br /><br />I am not a multi-tasker either. I am very much a uni-tasker. Almost too much focus on one thing at at a time. And like yourself, I also share the disdain for too much GO. (Love the way you said that.) I can't find me when I'm outrunning myself. I need a certain amount of peaceful alone time every single day, or I go shaky-batty.<br /><br />I'm in the fuck it stage too. I am fighting myself in a major way. I know I'm self-sabotaging, so at least I'm recognizing my problem this time. When it gets cold outside, I just want to grab a book and get under my electric blanket until spring. I really just don't do winter well, but I am determined to not use my cold-wimpiness as an excuse to be lazy. I won't. You and all of the amazing ladies on this website are motivating and inspiring me to keep trudging forward, and I so deeply appreciate it.<br /><br />Angel Face! You have such a cute nickname for yourself! I squeal!<br /><br />I cannot be creative without stillness either. You said: "...stillness is just time to exist without expectations" and I've never thought about it that way, but you're right. It makes it feel easier to find stillness if I think about it that way, so thank you.<br /><br />Have a safe work trip, and enjoy those cookies, P! :)Tawnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10188683676180842751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8005249090549075026.post-3175590509818102792010-12-04T08:05:11.609-06:002010-12-04T08:05:11.609-06:00YEs, Yes, Yes!! I so identify with your post today...YEs, Yes, Yes!! I so identify with your post today. I am an expert of half finishing projects by dreaming of the next one. Then buying a bunch of books about it, being slightly obsessive, then moving on. I can't wait for your list about why this is important and all the positive things to be gained from this experience. I know it's a bit early, but I feel like I'm at a little bit of a tipping point. Go one way and experience all sorts of wonderful, joyous things, or the other way...the "fuck it" way. This takes too much energy and I don't understand why I'm doing it and I could do more laundry if I wasn't stage!!<br />Add to the top of your why am I doing this list that you are beautiful and talented and the world (or at least Holly) would love to sit back with a nice glass of wine and listen to the melodious sounds of Peace Mac!!Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10072337244942358325noreply@blogger.com